In June 2011, I got my first depo shot, and stayed on it until mid-November 2011. My main reason for discontinuing was that my sex drive was completely gone, and it seemed to me to be depo-related.
So I've been off depo for roughly two months now and we've been using condoms so no other hormones either. I know it can take several months for the hormones to fully leave your system. I am still spotting every day as I have since my second shot, but the blood has changed from dark brown to bright red and it's also coming out in a heavier flow. I figure this is a good sign that the hormones are leaving my body. But I'm having problems with my libido still. I haven't felt the physical desire to have sex since the first week of December, and that was the first time in a couple months. I still have sex every day I'm with my boyfriend, because I mentally want to. But I can't really get wet on my own, it's extremely difficult for me to orgasm (only with my partner, through masturbation it's no problem at all, but I only masturbate about once a week whereas last year it was 1-2x a day), and it just doesn't feel as good physically as it did before.
I've been with my boyfriend for about 15 months, he's my first sex partner/long-term relationship. I am mentally so attracted to him – I look at him and I think he's sexy and admire his body etc etc – but I don't feel the strong physical desire I used to. So lately I've been wondering if my lack of attraction isn't depo related? I've never been with anyone else so I feel like I wouldn't know if I was less attracted to him cause I have nothing to compare it to.
I guess my question is basically just, how can I tell if a drop in libido is hbc related, partner related, or just a natural drop? I did talk to a doctor about it but she pretty much brushed it off as women having natural fluctuations.