Hi VPers!

I have a quick question. My partner (a cis-male) and myself (a cis-female) have oral sex pretty infrequently, and we are hoping to change that. I will give him the occasional blow job, and don't really mind giving one (he is fine with wearing a condom during them!) but he really doesn't like giving me oral sex. Its not that he doesn't try, but hair and positioning become a problem. He has trouble breathing after a while, and it is overall just uncomfortable for him.

On top of that, while I'm not hugely prone to yeast infections, I have gotten them twice just from oral sex within the past two years. I've been able to successfully treat both infections, but I would like to avoid getting them again. I have heard that plastic wrap is a really effective tool for protecting your partner and yourself during oral sex. Would plastic wrap protect me from another yeast infection? Also, would it help to give more comfort to my partner? I really have no problem wearing a barrier of some kind, since he wears them, too. It is only fair!

Any insights into how we can make oral sex better would be really helpful. Thanks, everyone!

Oh, also: STDs are not a concern. He is my first and only partner, and he was tested prior to us becoming sexually active together. We are also monogamous, so no worries there. 🙂

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14 Responses to Safer and more enjoyable oral sex?

  1. 711dy says:

    Have you ever heard of a dental dam?

    “A dental dam, like a condom, is a barrier method. It is a thin, square piece of rubber which is placed over the labia or anus during oral-vaginal or oral-anal intercourse. Dental dams are most often made of thin latex rubber; however, for those allergic to latex, they are also available in silicone. Although specially-made rubber dental dams are sold in stores, plastic saran wrap from your kitchen can serve as an effective dental dam as well.” via http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/std/oral/dentaldam.html

    Dental dams also can come flavored, as condoms do.

  2. Revous says:

    I have heard of dental dams, but I’ve also heard that they can get pricey. Are they more effective than plastic wrap? 🙂

    Thanks for the help!

  3. 711dy says:

    Are they more effective? They probably have the same effectiveness.

  4. SseNope says:

    I had an STI clinic nurse tell me that saliva can be a huge trigger for yeast infections. So, you might be onto something here with your correlation!

    Non-microwave-safe saran wrap is absolutely an effective oral sex barrier. You can also slice up a nitrile/latex glove (google it, there are quite a few tutorials) or a condom.

    If you’re interested in combating yeast infections more generally, check out the vulvapedia for resources about other avenues of prevention.

  5. Revous says:

    Yeah, when I got my first one, I was googling and read that saliva can trigger yeast infections, and I just sat there and went “…well, that explains a lot!”

    Thank you for the reassurance, we will go ahead with the plastic wrap, then!

  6. Dooyle says:

    If you have no dental dam or plastic wrap, you can also cut a condom down the centre to make a latex square. If you do oral without a barrier, make sure your partner hasn’t eaten anything sugary or yeasty. Maybe have them brush their teeth (if they do this with new partners, be aware that brushing your teeth can create little cuts in your mouth which increases risk of STI transmission with oral). Have you also tried different positions? Used pillows? Maybe have yourself lying on a table and him kneeling on something so that he’s not bending his neck?

  7. Revous says:

    I hadn’t thought of having him brush his teeth – we will definitely give that a try. We have tried different positions, like where I am at the edge of the bed and he is kneeling on the ground, and that has helped somewhat. Haven’t tried pillows as a support, though – will give that a go next. 🙂

    Thank you!

  8. Dooyle says:

    If you can afford them, I’ve heard great things about Liberator sex furniture.

  9. Teo007 says:

    I’d definitely try using pillows to try to change your position, as someone suggested upthread. Prop your bum up on a big pillow, or a couple of smaller ones, and it should reduce your partner’s problems some. Alternatively, you can try him kneeling on the floor by the bed (or, you know, a couch or something like that) and you scooting your bum to the edge of it. Everyone can breathe! Hurray!

  10. Revous says:

    Thank you, I think we will definitely try the pillow idea. We haven’t given that one a go yet. 🙂 Thank you!

  11. Bmuall says:

    Just to echo someone’s comment, yes, sugar will definitely put you at risk for yeast. Also consider any beverages like beer or wine that he may be having. </p>

    And positioning? He could do it upside down in a moving vehicle while driving if he really wanted to!! You could try sitting on the edge if a chair, you could 69 it, you could prop up on pillows. Explore until you find what works.

  12. UceNet says:

    If going the teeth-brushing route, I would follow up with a mouthwash as it’s his tongue that’s going to be doing the work 🙂

    As for positioning, have him tilt his head up, and raise your hips with a pillow underneath.

  13. SenNope says:

    speaking from personal experience, mouthwash will be an instant mood-killer… it’s much stronger than toothpaste and will sting sensitive bits!

    just brushing the tongue along with teeth should be fine.

  14. UceNet says:

    I wasn’t suggesting the strong minty ones!! Yikes! But a non-flavoured variety and a good swish out should do it 🙂 But by all means, proceed with caution, ha!

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