Okay, here is a question about me! To preface, I am going to the OB on Thursday and will be speaking to her about this as well.
I am 23, 103 pounds and 5 feet tall, have been having PIV sex for the last 9 years and had a baby 3 years ago vaginally with a third degree natural tear, she was 7 pounds 5 ounces. I’ve been on the mini-pill since September & it totally stops my periods. I have a history of hemorrhoids before and after baby. Those, though possibly unrelated, can get pretty bad at time although rarely painful. Is it normal if they look more like a prolapse after particularly difficult bowel movements than being painful and bloody? What I mean is that it’s like my anus puckered/swelled (lovely description) and they don’t hurt. My dad and brother both get them and they are painful, mine are usually just go down themselves with some Prep H.
However, I have this peeing issue. I have to pee before sex, in the middle of sex, and after sex even when I have cut my liquid intake hours before to avoid this. I cannot comfortably have sex or orgasm if I have ANY urine in my bladder. When the steady stream stops, I still have an urge and usually have to sit and try and completely relax to get the rest to come out. If that doesn’t work I usually have to bear down repeatedly to get the urine out (BAD! BAD! I know!) and it seems like it just keeps coming and coming sometimes. Often, even after I pee, I will stand up and go to wipe and push a little to make sure I am done and end up peeing all over the place. I guarantee I can pretty much void some bit of urine at any time of the day. I do not drink an ungodly amount of liquids or anything. Mostly water and Powerade.
In addition to this, I frequently have slips when I pee a little (often enough that I need to change my underwear and pants/shorts/whatever) from either coughing, laughing, jumping, or sneezing. This really sucks because we have a trampoline that my daughter LOVES and I just cannot jump on it with her. So, kegels, you say? Yes, I do. I also have Lelo’s pleasure balls which seem to help some but I feel like the issue is bigger than this. Although only a few people know I have this problem, it is extremely embarrassing for me.
It really puts a damper on our sex life when I am in pain due to having to urinate even the tiniest amount and have to break the session to go, sometimes twice, and also after (although I do this to avoid UTI and to displace semen) and my fiance is average in size. The pain is the worst when we do a missionary style position. I have only ever had 1 UTI in my life.
Another thing, which may or may not be relevant, is that my bowel movements are rare. I surmise it is due to not getting enough fiber so I am going to get on that but even when I do take in fiber, it can take me a long time to go. I usually only have 1 BM a week and they are REALLY big which does not, at all, help my hemorrhoids. If it is especially wide I will have to press on my perineum to expel it although that is pretty rare.
So, it seems like there may be two issues at hand here and I am assuming I can discuss both Thursday with my doctor but I also thought I would post here to get some feedback.