I'm probably answering my own question here, but I thought I would ask just to make sure.

Sometimes in certain positions (like Cowgirl/reverse cowgirl) it hurts to have sex. I think it's because he goes in too much and that he's too long/I'm not deep enough. Because it's usually when he goes in all the way and I get a "pull away" reflex.

What exactly is causing the pain? Is there something wrong with me or is it the size of our organs.

16 Responses to Pain when thrusting too deep

  1. 90tulova says:

    same thing happens to me. just cant do certain positions.

  2. Egneeva says:

    It’s your cervix 🙂 When in positions where you’re on top, try to control the depth…that’s the nice thing about those positions, you have much more control as to depth, speed etc.

    Does missionary or doggy hurt you at all? This is interesting because most advice for pain with deep thrusting is to switch to a woman on top position.

  3. 38ere says:

    He is probably hitting your cervix! That never feels good unless you enjoy pain. LOL

  4. Gni007 says:

    Well, some people like it! But I’m with you – I find it painful.

  5. Sekme says:

    Personally, I think it can (when done thoughtfully and with both people being aware of the potential reallyreallyBAD pain!) provide an interesting and exciting contrast to the pleasure of sex. But then again, I’m probably in that “people who enjoy pain” group ; )

  6. Trody says:

    Yep, I also like it. xD But sometimes, depending on my mood, I just can’t do it. Sometimes it hurts, sometimes it doesn’t. But I always figured it was my cervix. Cause… what else would it be? Haha

  7. SseNope says:

    I enjoy pain and I still don’t like having my cervix bashed too much! A little bit is okay, at certain points in my cycle.

    Also, sometimes a bashed cervix can bleed, or cause cramping that lasts after sex. It doesn’t mean anything’s permanently injured, it just indicates that your cervix is angry.

  8. Hteall says:

    This is actually not always the case — different cervixes have different sensitivities. Most people find cervix-poking to be unpleasant, but some people find a bit of cervical stimulation to be interesting. (The cervix is connected to the Vagus Nerve, and cervical stimulation can cause orgasms in people with full spinal injury that prevents sensation from all other nerves!)

    In my case, my cervix is usually pretty “eh, whatever.” However, I have noticed that with some toys, I “bottom out” — the end of the vagina gets to a certain point, and there’s no more room for length! And that can feel pretty oogy to me. It’s true that the vagina will lengthen and expand with arousal, but even so, there’s only so much expansion, and that varies from vagina to vagina.

    Likewise, some positions + some penile curves can bash the ovaries, which have the same tendency to be sensitive as testicles. Owie.

    (For the OP: There is almost certainly nothing “wrong” with you! It’s just how the bodies are fitting — or, in this case, not quite fitting — together. It’s fine to avoid certain positions that make you uncomfortable!)

  9. SguTuT says:

    Your cervix is at the end of your vagina, and it definitely can hurt when hit. The positions you named are some that allow the penis to go in deeper than others, so that’s why your cervix is hit in those positions instead of others. Stick to what doesn’t hurt; or, if you do enjoy those otherwise, ask him to not go in as deep at those times.

  10. Hteall says:

    The cervix is actually not at the end of the vagina! In a typical vagina, the cervix is kind of off to one side near the end, and there’s a bit more vagina right past it. (If one has a tipped uterus, however, the cervix can indeed be at the “end” of the vagina, and the “back pocket” that is typically behind it will be kind of beside it instead.)

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginal_fornix describes the names of these pockets (fornixes/fornices), but the picture is kind of fiddly-detailed. http://trustintimacy.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/G-Spot.jpg may be a better image (though it’s trying to identify the G-spot, which also has variable sensation depending on the body in question…), though it doesn’t label the cervix. (And the cervix isn’t that “open” into the uterus!) But looking at both might give a better idea of what the most usual layout is.

  11. 24lRa says:

    I’m pretty sure there’s nothing wrong with you, because this happens to me all. the. time. In most positions. I have described it as feels like “he’s punching my cervix.”

    I brought it up to a gyno once and she said it’s normal and to just tell him to hold up so you can adjust.

  12. Kdgle says:

    As others have said, it’s yer cervix. Nothing’s wrong with you, it’s just a relative angle issue. I’ve noticed that different positions hurt more/less at different times of the month. Your cervix is higher or lower at different points in your menstrual cycle and can thus be more or less likely to get hit. I think that the sensitivity of one’s cervix can also vary through the month.

    I’m 34 and have never been pregnant, but for a while I had a small incontinence problem. (For some women, incontinence follows childbirth, or it can just happen when you get into your late 20s or later!) In an attempt to fix the problem, I started religiously doing kegel exercises. Once I did a lot of them, I realized I could not only tighten my vaginal walls, I could also lift my cervix. Now, I have the “poking my cervix” problem during sex way less often. I’m not consciously pulling my cervix up, it just seems to happen. While being mindful of how deep your partner is thrusting will really help the pain, you might try some Kegels, too if you’re not doing them already.

    Have fun! 🙂

  13. Elteva says:

    If you wanted to try those positions, try adjusting the angle.

    I can’t do doggy bent over a bed without having horrific, really distressing pain. Doggy ON a bed however is way more adjustable if you change the height of your torso so it’s one of my favourites.

  14. Eikoma says:

    It might be your cervix, or you could be like me, and just have an ovarian cyst you didn’t know existed. 😛

  15. Yaj007 says:

    Your partner is hitting your cervix.

  16. kiki222 says:

    let him stick it in and hold it there it will stop trust me !!!! if hes big then its going to hurt but let him go all the way and the pain will go away

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