Alright…I just have a quick question. Does anybody know if you can safely use anal numbing lube for PIV sex? I'm failing really hard at it…my vagina does not like it. I'm 24, but I've only been sexually active since November. I've posted in here before about possibly having vaginismus but to me it really seems like the problem is the skin on the outside of my vagina, right at the opening. It still feels really tight and seems not to want to stretch. I'm using lube, am aroused, etc, before attempting it.
Last night I really mucked it up by starting to cry near the end because the burning and pain around the entrance was so unbearable. I keep trying because I keep thinking it'll get better or I'll get used to it. Obviously, it is not a turn on at all for my boyfriend when I start crying from pain 🙁 I really want sex to be enjoyable for us, and maybe if there was something to numb me a little bit down there, I would be able to endure it? I mean he's super gentle and I still can't handle it…Has anybody else tried this before? I'm hesitant to put something intended for one orifice into another without being sure that it's safe.