So i know that numbing lubes for anal sex are stupid. But what about relaxing ones? Are they just as bad? I accidentally bought some and got really upset because it costs a fucking fortune here. The one I bought is called "Pjur Analyse me Relaxing Anal Glide" and you can read about it here; . Apparantly it uses Jojoba oil or something to soften the muscles, but, I quote "without a desensitizing effect"? So I assume it's not numbing. I've never even heard of that. Can it be used? Or is it just as bad as the anal eaze and stuff like that. Thanks in advance.

11 Responses to Lube question

  1. OblFriut says:

    i highly doubt that jojoba oil would actually have any effect on the muscles, but that said I prefer silicone lube for anal.

    Anal sex shouldn’t hurt! It should start out excruciatingly slow, so that you can relax and anticipate what’s happening, and control it – if he just jams it in, that’s when it hurts and we get the impression it’ll be like that EVERY TIME, but that’s not the case.

  2. SniYes says:

    It is silicone, it just has jojoba oil as well. I have plenty experience with anal sex, both giving and recieving and it’s never really hurt for me at all. I’d like to think that I know what I’m doing by now.

    Honestly, i just picked up the closest silicone lube I saw because they didn’t have the one I usually use and I even used it for buttplugs without noticing anything strange(it didn’t feel numbing at all). Today I noticed that it was “relaxing” or whatever and kind of panicked. It would really suck if I had to just throw it away, but I don’t want anything porenially damaging either.

  3. OblFriut says:

    i don’t think it’d be a problem, I’m just saying I don’t think it would really affect the muscles.

  4. EadWo says:

    While I’ve not used that specific one, Pjur generally makes a fairly high quality sex positive product, focusing on making good stuff, rather than “sensational” stuff, if that makes any sense.

    Completely anecdotal, I use jojoba oil on my stretched ears all the time. It doesn’t make them relax that I’ve noticed, but it does feel good, and it does make a good lube. And no desensitizing effects to be had!

    tl:dr – Enjoy your lube. 🙂

  5. SniYes says:

    I see. I think I’ll take my chances on this one then. I didnt really find any information that could confirm that jojoba was a relaxant either so its seems like a bit of false advertisment. 😛

    And, thank you, I most certainly will. 🙂

  6. Kdgle says:

    Yeah…I wonder if the ‘relaxing’ is a bit of market-speak. It does make me giggle, though. tee-hee, ‘relaxing’ anal lube. Ahem, sorry. Enjoy.

  7. Sseyle says:

    I do wonder whether it’s compatible with latex condoms, if that’s an issue for you. Typically oil based or oil containing lubes are not.

  8. SniYes says:

    Well, it says right on the oficial website I linked in my post that it’s safe to use with condoms so I assume it’s not an issue.

  9. Sseyle says:

    Ah, sorry, I was rushing and didn’t look at the website. My bad.

  10. Oreova says:

    The only explanation I can think of is that the jojoba oil makes it seem like… more of a massage product? So maybe a nice anal massage with this lube would be… relaxing? I dunno, that is really weird.

  11. Altirique says:

    I have used Pjur Backdoor which I believe is the male version of Pjur Analyze Me. It is a silicone lube that is enhanced with Jojoba oil. I am not 100% certain that it is the Jojoba oil or some other chemical added to the lube but it has a very dramatic relaxing/opening effect. The best way to use it is to insert some prior to sex and wait 10 to 15 minutes. You will feel it once it starts working. The effect is dramatic and extremely noticeable especially if you are having sex with a very hung partner or using large toys. Things which once did not go deep may find there way into your colon for an extremely intense sensation like no other. That has been my experience with this lube. Definitely works but you have to wait a little while for it to kick in. Also may cause a tingling sensation at first which will dissipate.

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