I have a question that maybe some of you lovely community members can help me with. I am 30 years old and for the past 5 months I’ve been seeing this very lovely boy (my first boyfriend), who is also the first person I’ve ever had PVI with.
The boy is really wonderful and he’s very gentle and thoughtful, and the sex is great. However, the ‘problem’ is that he just can’t climax. He goes on and on, and after I’m done he finishes himself off by hand. I asked him about it a few times at the beginning and he said that he always had this problem, it’s just very hard for him to come (no pun intended). Once, when I was pestering him long enough, he suggested I should squeeze my vaginal muscles to ‘milk him’. Well, I tried to tense my vaginal muscles, but it doesn’t seem to be making much difference. He told me not to worry about it, but I can’t just let it go.
Is it possible that I am too loose? And if so, what can I do about it? I’ve been reading up on Kegels but just don’t know where to start. As you can imagine it’s really eating away at my self-confidence.
Any input is very much appreciated. Thank you.