I'm a 26 year-old cis woman. I have PCOS, and after years of completely unpredictable periods (preceded by years of HBC usage), my period has finally regulated itself. My cycle is usually about 31 days, and the only prescription I take is Metformin (500 mg/day).
For the last year or so, I've noticed that the mental symptoms of my PMS have been really intense, and I wonder if anyone else deals with this. The ten days before my period are usually marked by an awful bout of anxiety, or, during some months, a very strong desire to have an affair (I'm in a monogamous marriage). These thoughts are all-consuming and border on obsession. It's not even that my sex drive is higher–it is, marginally–but I have these incredible urges to connect romantically with other men and women. I also wonder about (or pine for?) my imaginary life as a single person.
My marriage is very healthy and fulfilling. No abuse, happy sex life, mentally stimulating, few arguments. But I've tried bringing up these feelings to him in the past, and he ends up feeling very threatened. His ex-wife was not faithful to him, and I try to be conscientious of that.
I'm happy and satisfied with my life and marriage during the rest of the month, so I don't believe this is indicative of any deeper issue. I have thought critically about monogamy in the past, but ultimately decided it was right for me.
Anyway, I just wanted to get that off of my chest and see if there are any similar stories out there. Most of my female friends are single, and I'm not close enough with the married ones to bring this up. Could going back on HBC help with this at all? Could there be something evolutionary (ovulation=more fertile time=seeking out mates) at play here?
Thanks in advance.